Close your eyes. Think about what makes you happy, or what will make you happy. Just sit with it, and explore what happiness means to you. No need to overthink or overanalyze.
Open your eyes. Did you run through a list of things or conditions or situations that make you happy? I know many things make me happy. Finding out Rustan's now carries vegan ice cream makes me happy. I mean, no cows have to suffer and I get to eat ice cream? That's a win-win in my book. But this kind of happiness is not permanent. It's only a tiny fraction of the lasting bliss we are truly capable of.
The anandamayakosha, the most subtle layer or covering of the bodies of the Self, is the bliss body. But the happiness that this body is capable of extends farther than we currently experience. It is what we thought of multiplied into infinity. It's not even about having the experience of happiness and bliss. It is about being that happiness and bliss itself.
Our conditioned perception is that happiness is part of an equation. If this thing happens, then I will be happy. Suppose those conditions are taken away from you, can you still be happy? Let us try this. Be very honest and dig deep into the specific conditions that you may have set up for yourself. If my father finally approves of me, then I will be happy. If I can save my marriage, then I will be happy. If my kid does well in school, then I will be happy. If I make double my salary, then I will be happy. If this person says this to me, then I will be happy. If that person stops doing that, then I will be happy.
What if, even if only for five breaths, you let go of that condition. In other words, what if you try to be unconditionally happy? Sit. Breathe. Do it. If you felt some relief and freedom in letting go of this condition, even if only for five breaths, why not consider letting go of this condition that makes you feel trapped- for good?
We can be unconditionally happy. The question is, will we choose to be? Choosing to be happy without attachment to external conditions does not diminish the importance of the people in our lives or our relationships or our jobs etc. It does not mean we stop caring or we become apathetic or we stop taking action. It means that we have come to accept the bliss that is innate in us, and we draw from that happiness, from that peace, from that joy, and take action from that sacred place. We love others and do things and live our lives not because we seek an exchange for happiness, but because we have this happiness to give. If we can experience bliss without condition, then we can love without condition. If we can love without condition, then we see all others as holy beings without condition.
Be who you truly are. Be blissful. Be happy.