We are of the belief that something can make us happy, because we are of the belief that happiness has to be chased or sought, found or bought, achieved or maintained, learned or sustained. We are of the belief that happiness is all the way there while we are all the way here.
What if I told you “nothing can make you happy just as nothing can make you unhappy”? Does that change your perspective? Is it clearer now that our happiness is an inside job? Does it make sense that the “state of our happiness” is dependent on us and not the world outside?
To take ownership for one’s happiness is a big step. Because it means we see objects now as empty. Someone pays us a compliment, it is empty because that depends on how we perceive it. Someone criticizes us. Same thing. We see it as empty and dependent on how we see it. Seeing things as empty and coming to terms with the idea that nothing can make us happy free us. No longer are we going on this ride of chasing what’s outside of us that we cannot control, and we start to do the work that we can control— the peace, the steadiness, the calm that is inside of us.