The yoga practice requires a lot of humility, as it teaches us to acknowledge that regardless of the kind of relationship we now have with our mother, she remains the person who was a first teacher to us. Mothers are given a “role” to play, and as with most roles, it comes with the burden of perfection. We’ve seen mothers portrayed as always loving, always nurturing, always having answers. That, however, is not always the case. Mothers too can lose their temper, they can be impatient, they can think of themselves over their children, they can be less than perfect. If we are stuck in seeing our mothers as only mothers, we may be disappointed because we will always continue to expect that she is perfect and fulfills all our needs. There is one gift we can give our mother— that is to see her as a soul who has taken on this incarnation as our mother. By seeing her as a soul in human form, we realize that our relationship with her is not limited to mother and child, we also start to see that we are two souls born in two bodies.
With the perspective of seeing our mother as a soul, there is no need to push our impossible standards of perfection unto her; there is no need to expect that she will fulfill all our needs. Instead we see that she is a soul playing the role of our mother, and she plays this role well at times, and during the times that she falls short at her role, that is still okay because we see the soul in her. From soul to soul, we let go of the idea of what it is that we need her to do. Instead, from soul to soul, we wish for her liberation, her happiness, her freedom. Our mother is a mother is a person is an imperfect human being is a perfect soul.