That means most of us believe that who we are now is shaped by the memories we have. How we were raised formed our belief systems. Our past experiences determined whether we are generally trusting or mildly suspicious or intensely cynical of life. What happened to us before influenced our life choices, our state of mind, our inclinations towards certain things and situations. That is to say, if we were shown kindness, then we look at this world and see a lot of good and trust and hope. If we were hurt or betrayed, we may hold on to that experience and be continuously fearful and defensive. Are we then doomed by our memories, or is there another choice?
We can choose goodness-- to remember the good, to see the good, to be guided by the good. It does not mean we deny any negative realities of the past. We cannot tell people who have been abused or betrayed or undermined in some way to pretend those things never happened. We should not be pretending no bad thing has ever happened to us. It is not about denial. Rather, it is about choosing what among these memories and experiences we want to take with us to define us and our realities and our perspectives. If we were hurt in the past, as we all have been, what good would it do to keep the identity of the victim, of the one who was hurt? Can we choose to remember goodness, that we are more than this hurt, more than this pain, more than this betrayal?
All of us have that capacity to transform who we are. If we lost all of our memory, except one good memory, what will that one memory be? How would having a single good memory and none of the bad change us? Will we find more freedom? Will we be happier? Will there be a release of a heavy burden? Will there be an enthusiasm about this life we are given?
We do not have to wait for extreme circumstances to make positive changes in our lives. We do not have to literally lose our memories in order to cherish the good ones. We can choose to remember goodness. And then the person that we are becomes that person with that one good memory guiding our lives. If we find liberation at the thought of this, then what is stopping us from experiencing this total freedom?